My Nest May be Empty, But My Kid Still Calls Me Mom

SoCal Mom Blog

My daughter was in the second grade when I started writing this blog (back in 2003). This year, she will graduate from high school. I have been struggling to come up with a new name for the blog, since I get way too many pitches for diapers and toys and other items my newly-minted adult daughter doesn’t need any longer, but  all the variations on “empty nest” and “midlife transition” seem to be taken.

Besides, I’ve been “SoCal Mom” for so long, I am afraid no one will know who I am – there, “SoCal Mom” I remain. For now.

Because I Really Do Care

Posted by on 3:06 pm in Blather, Empty Nest, NaBloPoMo | 0 comments

Because I Really Do Care

I love the first couple of days of the month. Not only does it feel like a fresh slate, but there’s the added joy of finding NO NEW BILLS in the mail. But today’s mail included an envelope addressed to “Parents of” from my daughter’s college – with the notation: “FINAL EXAMS INFORMATION ENCLOSED.” Naturally, I opened it right away — only to discover that it was a solicitation: Subject: Send your student a Final Exams CARE Package I guess I was mistaken by thinking the days of buying...

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Marshall McLuhan was Right

Posted by on 11:24 am in Blather, NaBloPoMo | 0 comments

Does anyone study Marshall McLuhan any more? He was all the rage when I was in high school and college, even making a famous cameo in “Annie Hall.” I never really got him, even though I was first exposed to his work in high school and am pretty sure I had to read him as a media major in college. I vividly remember sitting through a film of “The Medium is the Massage” in 10th grade English — even though that Wikipedia entry in the link seems unaware that such a film ever existed. It did. I could not make up...

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Re-Entry

Posted by on 10:42 am in Blather, Empty Nest, NaBloPoMo | 2 comments

Re-Entry

My sister had planned to visit me this weekend, but the weather got in the way. Don’t get me wrong: we’re both really happy to see the state get a little rain — but we’re both smart enough to know that driving on wet roads in this state can be treacherous, especially during the first storm after months and months of hot and dry weather, which tends to make the asphalt all the more slippery. Besides, the only thing worse than driving alone on the 5 from Sacramento to Los Angeles is doing it in inclement weather. So I...

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Where I’ve Been and Where I’m Going

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Where I’ve Been and Where I’m Going

It’s been a rough three months. My daughter started college in a city nearly 2,000 miles away and just like that! We have an empty nest. A few weeks after that, I had to submit to something I’ve been trying to avoid for years: a total hysterectomy. I’ve been feeling like a woman torn apart, both figuratively and literally. I started blogging eleven years ago. It was both a creative outlet and therapy, and for a long time I credited it with keeping me sane. But this year, I have had difficulty finding the words for how...

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Another Year, Another BlogHer

Posted by on 9:48 am in Blather, Original Blogsta | 9 comments

Another Year, Another BlogHer

On Friday night at BlogHer, I found myself in deep conversation with a woman who was in the process of reinventing herself after sending the last child off to college. You know, much like I’m trying to do. She told me she had just sold her business, which consisted of a couple of hobby and crafts stores in the San Diego area. “You look so familiar,” she said to me. “Are you a scrapbooker?” And that’s when I had to laugh… because just that morning, I was featured in the BlogHer conference’s...

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BlogHer, Empty Nests, Uteri and Heart

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BlogHer, Empty Nests, Uteri and Heart

Once again, I am at the annual BlogHer conference. I got here the old-fashioned way: I drove the 318 miles from my home to the San Jose Convention Center in a little over 5 hours (which isn’t bad, considering how many pee breaks I need to take these days). I was lucky that I did not have to make the drive alone: I had a friend along for company, and for entertainment — the mix CD my daughter made me for my birthday (a fascinating melange that includes tracks from Alabama Shakes, Vampire Weekend, MIA, Rizzle Kicks and Sam Smith. Yes, it is...

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The Day Before My Birthday

Posted by on 12:59 pm in Baby You Can Drive My Car, Blather | 1 comment

The Day Before My Birthday

I celebrated my birthday this week. I suppose “celebrate” is too strong a word. At my advanced age (58!! OMG!), all I could muster was an acknowledgement that another year had passed all too quickly (impossible to ignore, thanks to Facebook and dozens of birthday greetings from friends and acquaintances, which I have to admit: I do enjoy). I went out to lunch with my friend, Marsha and a rare weeknight dinner with my daughter, who paid for it with a $50 bill my husband had slipped her. He could not dine with us: He had a business...

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April Was the Cruelest Month

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April Was the Cruelest Month

It’s bad enough that the Ides of April coincides with Tax Day – but this year, we had the extra expense of a large auto repair bill (thanks, Volvo)… and some last-minute travel. Megan got in to seven out of the ten colleges and universities she applied to. That was the good news. The bad news is that the three campuses that rejected her were all in California, and so what we were left with was a collection of very different schools thousands of miles away. I exaggerate. We still had two California colleges to choose from: UC...

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Comedy is Hard

Posted by on 1:54 pm in Agents of Zeitgeist, Television | 2 comments

Comedy is Hard

The #CancelColbert controversy over the weekend has gotten me thinking about the perils of being a comedy professional — which I am not. However, some thirty years ago I was an aspiring sitcom writer and was working behind the scenes in comedy television, and totally agree that Comedy is HARD. So is navigating the many avenues of race and ethnicity in 21st Century America. It’s a subject I tend to shy away from — not because I don’t care, but because I know that no matter how hard I try to understand and articulate my...

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The Re-Balancing Act

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The Re-Balancing Act

I have always written. I have an autograph book from childhood. Fifty years ago, my second-grade teacher wrote that she looked forward to seeing my plays on Broadway some day. I did not become a playwright, but longtime friends know that in a previous life, I was an aspiring sitcom writer. Back then, I worked as a production assistant.  TV production, in the words of my old boss at The Tonight Show, is a “hurry up and wait” kind of endeavor. You can spend hours just sitting around while other people are preparing scripts, props,...

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