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My daughter was in the second grade when I started writing this blog (back in 2003). This year, she will graduate from high school. I have been struggling to come up with a new name for the blog, since I get way too many pitches for diapers and toys and other items my newly-minted adult daughter doesn’t need any longer, but  all the variations on “empty nest” and “midlife transition” seem to be taken.

Besides, I’ve been “SoCal Mom” for so long, I am afraid no one will know who I am – there, “SoCal Mom” I remain. For now.

A New Mess

Posted by on 3:34 pm in Getting Old Sucks | 2 comments

A New Mess

On Monday, the day after I returned from BlogHer, I went to my doctor’s office for what was (for me) a routine ultrasound. She looked at the image and shook her head. “You have a new mess on your ovary,” she said. I have a history of really large uterine fibroids, and it seemed perfectly natural to me to refer to them as a “mess,” because really, that’s what they are. It took me a few minutes before I realized the word my doctor used was “mass.” A mass near or on my ovary. That didn’t...

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College Essay Boot Camp and the Unbearable Feeling of Letting Go

Posted by on 10:30 am in Education, Getting Old Sucks | 2 comments

College Essay Boot Camp and the Unbearable Feeling of Letting Go

On Tuesday, I had to get my flu-ridden self out of bed and take my daughter to school. No, the Fall semester hasn’t started THIS early (she still has another two weeks, but the summer still feels like it’s been too short). But as this will be her senior year, there are additional events and activities on her agenda. She’s been talking about next year’s prom for months, since her class raised enough money to secure fabulous space at our beautiful Museum of Natural History. And next week, she will sit for her senior...

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Another Year, Another BlogHer

Posted by on 1:08 pm in Blather, Original Blogsta | 6 comments

Another Year, Another BlogHer

This year, I vowed to do things I had never done before at BlogHer, beginning with my arrival — because aside from a stopover at O’Hare Airport 30 years ago, this was my first time in Chicago. I went on to do new things by (1) wearing a dress (something I may have done before but cannot recall, because it is pretty hard to make me don anything but t-shirts and jeans)… (2) participated in the annual 5k Fun Run (which in my case, was a walk)… And (3) actually spoke on a panel. (It was a sponsored session for US Cellular,...

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Chicago is My Kind of Town

Posted by on 3:27 am in Food and Drink, Travel | 0 comments

Chicago is My Kind of Town

That old Frank Sinatra tune has been playing in my head since I landed at O’Hare Tuesday night — which is not really a bad thing. (It could be worse, right? Like a Justin Bieber ear worm?) How can you help singing when the view from your hotel window looks like this? There’s no shame in being a total tourist when visiting a new city, and I had hoped to get some big time sightseeing in yesterday, but that was not to be. Between the MOMocrats’ regularly scheduled Wednesday podcast and my sister’s business dealings,...

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Baby Steps

Posted by on 4:00 am in Mom Life | 0 comments

“You don’t have to do that,” my daughter said with an annoyed tone of voice. I pretended not to know what she was talking about, but she could not help but see me stretch my right foot forward, as if putting on the brake. Since I was in the passenger seat, she took my twitching as evidence that I was uncomfortable with that. Not true. She’s actually an excellent driver. She had a lot of practice last summer, when I broke my right toe and enlisted her as my chauffeur, taking me to and from grocery shopping and...

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A Family of Travelers

Posted by on 7:06 pm in Cardiff, England, Generation Fabulous, Travel | 5 comments

A Family of Travelers

I recently became a member of the Generation Fabulous group of midlife bloggers, which runs a monthly bloghop. This month’s topic is “Transformative Travel.” I rarely went anywhere in my 20s and early 30s. I was too focused then on trying to stay employed in the entertainment industry… and looking for love in all the wrong places. And then: I finally found it, with someone who was here on a student visa. And a few years later, I found myself on a plane to London so I could meet his family. It was Christmas, and as a...

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Time for Contemplation

Posted by on 3:32 pm in Blather, Mom Life | 2 comments

I began this post on Monday morning. I attempted to finish it on Tuesday afternoon, while waiting for a doctor’s appointment. I didn’t get very far. I spent yesterday working on my weekly podcast … and then trying to finish a freelance post that should have been done two weeks ago. As you can see, time management is not my forte. It wasn’t always this way. I was a productive, working member of society for a good twenty years — capable of managing projects on time and under budget. I expected that I would take...

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Independence Day at Grand Park

Posted by on 2:11 pm in Food and Drink, SoCal Life | 2 comments

Independence Day at Grand Park

My daughter decided that if she HAD to stay in Los Angeles for Independence Day, she would at least spend it with friends. She invited two of them for an overnight marathon of movies, junk food and board games. Ever last-minute, I decided we would be traditional and grill burgers for dinner. I queried the girls on their preferences. “Any vegetarians here?” No. That wouldn’t be a problem anyway, as we have plenty of vegan burgers for my husband. But one of the girls likes yellow mustard on her burgers. This is a substance I...

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How to Celebrate July 4 in LA?

Posted by on 10:08 am in SoCal Life | 3 comments

How to Celebrate July 4 in LA?

We will NOT be spending Independence Day this year with my sister’s family in Sacramento, which has led me to something of a dilemma: How the heck are we going to celebrate the 4th of July here in LA? I’ve been combing local event sites for lists of fireworks shows and festivals for the Fourth, and there are plenty to choose from. So the hard part is making an actual decision. Do we want to watch the fireworks at the mega-church in Porter Ranch? All the way down to Grand Park in downtown Los Angeles? Or choose between two...

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No More Reunions

Posted by on 4:51 pm in Blather, Getting Old Sucks | 2 comments

No More Reunions

I just received a reminder about my high school reunion, which is taking place this summer. I tossed it straight into the circular file. As I said when I received the “Save the Date” notice last year, I don’t do reunions any longer. That’s what Facebook is for. Besides, I’ve spent the last 40 years trying to forget the horrors of being a teenage girl at an American high school in the late 20th century — and I don’t need to spend an awkward evening with a bunch of my peers whose only thing in common...

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